What's the first thing to go when a relationship starts to fall apart?
Natassia sits down with Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist Liliana Doyon, LMFT, President of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, to unpack keeping the peace, self-abandonment, the pursue-withdraw cycle, attachment styles, repair after conflict, resentment, caretaking and "emotional foreplay," and what actually happens in the room when couples get stuck in the same fight.
Liliana is also a first-generation Mexican American who integrates curanderismo — cacao ceremony, sound baths, and limpias — into evidence-based couples work.
They explore why "let's talk about it later" is where repair dies, why the first thing to go in a relationship is sex, and why the accommodating partner ends up unseen and unheard.
Whether you're the one who pushes to talk, the one who walks away, or the one who has stopped bringing things up at all, this episode may change how you hear your partner and yourself.
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