Sabrina Bendory joins me for an honest conversation about dating after narcissistic abuse, and how to tell the difference between a real red flag and a trauma trigger. We talk about why survivors so often hide their feelings for fear of being "too much," how to tell anxiety from intuition, and why detaching from outcomes (not people) lets you date from self-worth instead of fear.
Whether you're newly dating, in a relationship that finally feels safe, or wondering if you'll ever trust yourself again, this conversation is a reminder that healthy love isn't supposed to feel dangerous, and that you can learn to trust what your body is telling you.
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About Sabrina:
Sabrina Bendory is a bestselling author, relationship and self-worth coach, and host of the You Will Be OK podcast. For nearly two decades, she has helped women break unhealthy relationship patterns, heal their self-worth, and build the confidence to create the love and life they truly want.
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Chapter Markers
(0:00) Introduction
(1:43) Triggers vs. Red Flags
(3:46) Communicating Triggers in Relationships
(10:47) Anchoring in "I'll Be Okay"
(15:04) Detachment
(17:59) Self-Worth & Confidence
(20:08) Building Self-Worth
(28:37) Closing Advice
