Y'all — before we get into today's topic, I have to share some news that still has my jaw on the floor. The Attachment Confessions has been named one of the Best 30 Attachment Theory Podcasts in the US by Million Podcasts, ranking alongside some of the leading experts in attachment theory. I am truly flabbergasted and so incredibly grateful. All glory to God — and to YOU, my confessions fam!🎉💜
Now — episode 19 kicks off a brand new 4-part series where we're putting each attachment style under the microscope. And we're starting with the Anxious Preoccupied. If you're an AP, have loved one, or have ever been baffled by anxious attachment patterns in a relationship — buckle up. We're going deep🎙️
What we cover in this episode:
How anxious preoccupied attachment forms in childhood through intermittent reinforcement — and why inconsistent caregiving creates an addiction to love in the brain
The specific scenarios that create AP attachment — from working parents and big families to one emotionally attuned parent and one emotionally withdrawn parent
The AP's core wound: fear of abandonment and the core belief "I'm not enough" — and how these drive every relationship pattern
The fawn trauma response — why APs over-apologize and fall on their own sword even when they've done nothing wrong
The octopus vs. turtle illustration (from attachment specialist Brie Neil, episode 4) — and why the AP's closeness-seeking behaviors push their partners further away
The self-abandonment cycle — how morphing into whoever your partner wants you to be builds resentment over time
The friend-ghosting pattern — why APs disappear from everyone else the moment a new relationship starts
The superpowers of the AP: their kindness, thoughtfulness, affection, and deep capacity to love
Why healing anxious attachment is 100% possible — and what that process actually looks like
This isn't a roast session, I promise!😂 Every insecure attachment style has its shadows AND its superpowers, and we're covering both. The AP just wants to love and be loved. Understanding the science behind why their patterns sabotage that goal is the first step to changing it.
Are you an Anxious Preoccupied who wants to share your story on the pod? I'm actively looking for an AP guest for an upcoming lived experience episode! DM me on Instagram @theattachmentconfessions.
💜 Ready to heal your anxious attachment? Listeners of The Attachment Confessions get 10% off Dr. Sarah Hensley's attachment healing programs at thelovedoc.com — use code CHELSEA10 at checkout. (Check out Episode 13 for my full review of Dr. Hensley's hybrid group coaching program!)
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