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WHAT IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT?
How to Figure Out What You Actually Want
What do you actually want?
For such a simple question, an incredible number of people find themselves thinking:
“I don't know.”
But what if you don't know what you want because you've become incredibly practiced at listening to everything except desire?
In this episode of Spiritually Kinky™, Dustin Lea Wheeler explores why it can become so difficult to know what you really want in life—and what may have happened between the moment something inside you whispered “I'd love...” and the moment you learned to interrupt it.
Imagine noticing that you'd love to live near the ocean.
Before you've even had time to feel the desire, your mind is already calculating the cost of moving, questioning whether it's realistic and trying to figure out how the entire thing would work.
Logic arrived with a fucking spreadsheet before desire got to finish the sentence.
Do that often enough and eventually you may stop hearing the original signal.
There's another distinction that matters here too: knowing what you want isn't the same as knowing what you want to escape.
You can create enormous movement trying to get away from the wrong relationship, the exhausting job or the life that no longer fits.
But movement isn't necessarily direction.
Conscious creation asks a different question:
What would I fucking love?
That question can feel surprisingly vulnerable because admitting what you want means admitting that something matters to you. But hearing a desire doesn't obligate you to pursue it.
Wanting isn't choosing.
Before True Choice, there may be something even simpler:
Contact.
Can you hear yourself wanting before you analyze what you're allowed to have?
Maybe you don't need to work harder to figure out what you want.
Maybe you need to become available to noticing what you want.
Inside the Spiritually Kinky Community for Creators on Skool, we're learning to recognize the structures that have been organizing our lives so we can consciously choose what we'd actually love to create.
If you're ready to unlock your superpowers of conscious creation and create a life you actually desire instead of simply repeating the life you've survived, come join us.
And today, don't pressure yourself to figure out your entire life purpose.
Just notice when something inside you says:
“I'd love...”
Then let yourself hear the rest of the sentence.
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