Who Am I If Nobody Needs Me? - Hot Mess Magic | Lyssna här

What if being needed has become part of your identity?

Not loved. Not valued. Needed.

The woman who handles everything. Solves everything. Shows up for everyone. The woman who rarely asks for help because somewhere along the way, doing it herself became proof she could be trusted, capable, worthy.

Alyssa Kalebota knows her well.

She spent years living in the go-go-go mentality, building a business, becoming a mother, chasing goals, and carrying more than she needed to. Then life started forcing her to slow down.

A divorce at 27 blew apart one version of her life. Pregnancy challenged another. Motherhood exposed the uncomfortable truth underneath her independence: sometimes “I can handle it” isn't strength. Sometimes it's an identity you don't know how to put down.

So Michelle asks the question sitting underneath the entire conversation:

Who are you if you stop being the woman everyone needs?

Michelle and Alyssa get into independence, mom guilt, achievement, self-worth, asking for support, expectations, relationships, and the strange discomfort of discovering being needed can feel like safety.

Because being capable isn't the same as being responsible for everything.

And being needed isn't the same as being alive.

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