What if some of the things you've been calling love were actually rejection, inconsistency, emotional starvation, fear of abandonment, or the desperate need to finally be chosen?
Sis, this conversation goes deep.
Sometimes we don't choose relationships based on what's healthy—we choose based on what's familiar.
If you grew up chasing your father's attention, wondering whether he would show up, trying to earn affection, or questioning why you weren't enough for him to stay, those wounds don't automatically disappear when you become an adult.
Sometimes they follow you straight into your relationships.
And before you know it, you're chasing someone else's attention, making excuses for inconsistency, falling in love with potential, accepting emotional breadcrumbs, and calling anxiety chemistry.
In Episode 90 of Through My Father’s Eyes, we're uncovering how father wounds can quietly shape what we accept, tolerate, chase, excuse—and ultimately call love.
We're talking about the difference between love and attachment, boundaries and walls, chemistry and anxiety, compassion and rescuing, and being chosen versus knowing your worth before anyone chooses you.
Because here's the truth:
You can love somebody and still admit they're hurting you.
You can forgive someone without giving them unlimited access to you.
You can see someone's potential without making their potential your responsibility.
And you can stop fighting to be chosen by people who require you to abandon yourself in order to keep them.
Maybe you're not afraid of losing them.
Maybe you're afraid their rejection will confirm the lie you've carried since childhood:
“I'm still not enough.”
But their inability to love you correctly does not determine your worth.
God already settled that.
You are loved.
You are chosen.
And you don't have to audition for either one.
🎧 Press play if you're ready to stop calling familiar pain love and start recognizing the kind of love that doesn't require you to lose yourself.
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