The First 3 Minutes of a Fight Predict Your Relationship's Future | Dr. John & Julie Gottman

Most relationships don't end because of one big betrayal. They die slowly through small moments of disconnection.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman are the world's leading relationship researchers, having studied couples for over 40 years, publishing more than 200 academic journal articles and 46 books. They are the co-founders of The Gottman Institute and the renowned Love Lab.

In this episode, they break down what decades of research on thousands of couples reveals about communication, trust, and what actually destroys love.

We Discuss:

• Why small daily interactions matter more than grand romantic gestures
• The Four Horsemen of relationship destruction: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
• How to build and update Love Maps for deeper emotional connection
• Why emotional neglect is more damaging than conflict
• How smartphones are quietly eroding intimacy
• Whether relationships can truly recover after betrayal and infidelity

📱 Gottman Card Decks App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/gottman-card-decks/id1071747474

📚 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553447718

📚 The Relationship Cure: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553384393

🔗 The Four Horsemen Explained: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen/

🌐 Visit the Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/

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