If you keep saying you’re going to change… but keep doing the same thing anyway — this is why.
This is the exact pattern I see with clients every single week.
With food, workouts, relationships… you know what to do, but in the moment, you just don’t do it.
And then you’re left thinking: “Why do I keep doing this?”
In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s actually happening -- because it’s not that you’re lazy or don’t care enough.
You’re reacting. Not choosing.
We get into:
- why most of your behaviors are automatic (and why awareness isn’t enough to change them)
- what’s actually going on in your brain when you “fall off”
- the difference between your reactive self vs. the version of you you actually want to be
- and how to start interrupting that pattern in real time
I also walk through real examples with food, workouts, and relationships so you can actually apply this -- not just understand it.
Because once you get this, you stop feeling like you’re out of control…
and you start showing up like the person you keep saying you want to be.
See you inside 💌
xx Laini
Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction to Reactive vs. Choosing Behavior
02:51 Understanding Reactions and Regrets
06:12 The Role of Obstacles and Responses
09:01 Patterns, Habits, and Neural Pathways
12:09 Ego vs. Higher Self
14:54 Reflecting and Planning for Change
17:46 Executing New Responses and Identity Transformation
21:07 Transforming Identity Through Choices
27:06 Mindful Eating: Breaking the Guilt Cycle
31:50 Intentional Responses in Relationships
35:29 Aligning Actions with Your Higher Self
I talk about this kind of stuff a lot more on IG → @lainijojo
