56. Dads: Here's How I Take Time for Myself Without Making My Wife Hate Me - Dadicated Joe | Lyssna här

I didn't feel free to go water skiing or spend three hours making a costume when my wife was still worrying about the house. It didn't feel fair, so I didn't do it. And then I felt resentful.

Fair Play changed that for us. It gave my wife and me a clearer way to divide the household mental load, not just the chores. When I fully own my cards, she does not have to keep worrying about them, and I do not have to carry vague guilt every time I want space for myself.

This is for dads who care but feel tired, stretched thin, or stuck between being present and wanting freedom. The Fair Play method helped me see that self-care is not the enemy of fatherhood. Resentment is.

Inside this episode

• Why dads need self-care without guilt

• How Fair Play reduces household resentment

• Why moms still carry the mental load

• How couples can divide chores more clearly

• What unicorn space gives back to dads

• How freedom can make you more present

Past Episodes:

Want to go deeper on this? Start with my Fair Play episode, where I explain the system that helped us stop fighting about chores and start sharing the household mental load more clearly.

Fair Play: Why Moms Still Carry the Mental Load (and How Dads Can Change That): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJ2KExQ-Y8Y&t=1s

Then listen to my conversation with Ken Blackman, our relationship coach, for a deeper look at marriage, intimacy, and staying connected as parents.

Why Marriage After Kids Fails (It's Not What You Think): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3up1FDPaIFw&t=12s

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Being Dadicated isn't about having all the answers.

It's about showing up.

It's about committing to the kind of dad—and man—you want to be, even when it's hard. Especially when it's hard.

Joe Carr is a dad to Della, husband to Serenity, co-founder of Serenity Kids baby food, and the voice behind Dadicated Joe.