S2 Episode 10: Why You Pull Away When Things Feel Too Much-Flight Response
Love on the Autism Spectrum — Season Two
In Episode 10, Blaze explores the flight response as a nervous-system strategy for regulating overwhelm. Rather than labeling avoidance as emotional immaturity, this episode reframes pulling away as protection through distance. Grounded in Spiral Layer 1 (Deepening), Blaze examines how sensory stacking, relational intensity, and emotional overload activate flight responses in neurodivergent adults and couples. Drawing from trauma-informed frameworks and polyvagal theory (Dr. Stephen Porges), listeners are offered practical tools for mapping thresholds, using structured space, and reducing shame around their need for pacing.
One Emotional Takeaway
Pulling away isn’t rejection — it’s often regulation.
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“The Flight Response in Neurodivergent Nervous Systems: Avoidance, Escape, and Relief”
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🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES
Start here — the free guide that gently names the pattern: ✨ You're Not Too Much. You're Just Alone in the Repair. → link.blazelazarony.com/youre-not-too-much
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The book — daily reflections for coming home to who you really are: 📚 Unmasked Self-Acceptance → author.amazon.com/home
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This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Listening does not create a therapeutic relationship or provide individualized advice.
Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, MA, LMFT #151788, is licensed in California. All examples are fictional and used for illustration only.
If you're experiencing a mental health crisis, please call 988 or contact local emergency services.
