You’ve spent the last 12 weeks learning how your patterns formed, how they show up, and how they affect your relationships.
And if you’re anything like the brains I work with, there’s a part of you that’s been keeping score.
Noticing every time you apologised for existing.Every time saying no felt difficult.Every time you slipped back into something you thought you’d already worked through.
And quietly deciding that you’re still the problem.
If you were taught that your worth was conditional, it makes sense that you’d measure yourself against perfection. But that standard was never designed to be fair, it was designed to keep you safe.
In this final episode, Helen brings the whole season together, exploring why progress isn’t about never repeating a pattern, but noticing it sooner, responding differently, and learning to do that without turning it into evidence against yourself.
Because healthy doesn’t mean perfect. It means faster awareness, and more kindness when you get it wrong.
Resources mentioned:
Research on conditional self-worth and perfectionismResearch on shame and behaviour change
Aperio Profiles:
Neurodivergent-informed cognitive and personality profiling for individuals, managers, and HR. Not a diagnosis. A functional map of how your brain actually works.
aperioprofiles.co.uk
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