Politics can feel like a loyalty test now. Like you are either on the right team, or you are a threat. In this conversation with Larry Rosen, attorney turned mediator and host of The Enemies Project YouTube docuseries, we talk about what happens when people stop seeing each other as humans and start treating politics like a team sport.

Larry’s work sits right in the middle of the biggest problems in political polarization and social division: we assume intention, we fill in the blanks with the worst story, and we turn disagreement into moral war. We unpack why conflict is rarely just about the surface issue, how “enemy making” works, and why curiosity feels like betrayal when the nervous system is in threat mode.

We also get into Larry’s approach to depolarization and conflict resolution, including rapport-building, extreme perspective taking, and the moment that changes everything: helping people understand what the other person is trying to protect. It is not about forcing agreement. It is about making it harder to keep the other side as a cartoon, and easier to have hard conversations without dehumanising each other.

If you care about bridging the political divide, civil discourse, and how to talk to people you disagree with without damaging your relationships beyond repair, this one will land. It is a reminder that healing is not soft, and it is not naive; it is one of the only paths out of the loop we are stuck in.

CHAPTER MARKERS:

00:00 Introduction

00:22 Meet Larry Rosen

02:50 From Lawyer to Mediator

05:43 Why Enemies Project Started

12:20 Enemies Project Format

15:49 Extreme Perspective Taking

19:37 Healthy Conflict Zone

23:33 Platforming and Safety

30:38 Casting Real Enemies

34:29 Why Activists Fight

35:39 Low Empathy And AI

42:22 Future Of Enemies Project

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

https://www.enemiesproject.org/

Larry's Good for the Soul:

https://youtube.com/shorts/aFuuyibkx1Q?si=MhVJvWhH5SMGPDdb

LINKS:

On Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wevegottotalk/

On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WeveGotToTalk

On Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/weve-got-to-talk/id1797423701

On Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0qJVgTvjciUffRmoUienx2

How to find Nicole https://nicolefonarow.com/

How to find Jolene https://dibledough.com/

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