Fourteen Wisconsinites from opposite sides of the abortion debate sat down together for a three-day Builders Movement Citizen Solutions session on abortion and family wellbeing. This wasn’t a panel or a debate for show. It was a practical, structured process with trained facilitators and a clear framework, designed to help people hear each other properly and figure out what could actually change in real life, not just online.
What they landed on was surprisingly concrete: extending Medicaid postpartum coverage in Wisconsin from 60 days to a full year. In March 2026, the policy passed almost unanimously, and Governor Tony Evers signed it into law. This means more moms getting treatment for postpartum depression, more women getting care when something goes wrong after birth, and more families supported during the months when everything is raw, expensive, and exhausting.
But the story behind that win is not tidy. One participant, Ali (a progressive Democrat and elected official in Madison), admitted she walked in suspicious, worried it would be conflict-as-entertainment. Kai, an independent who describes herself as a “world citizen,” trusted the referral and believed the process could work. Kateri, a Catholic who prefers “consistent life ethic,” feared being flattened into a stereotype, and she didn’t sugar-coat how hard it was to feel understood in a room full of strangers on a topic this loaded.
This is the part we don’t talk about enough: real dialogue is uncomfortable, and “common ground” doesn’t magically appear because everyone’s being polite. It takes time, relationship, and a willingness to stay in the room when it gets tense. Still, this group proved something important, that even when people can’t agree on everything, they can sometimes agree on what families need, and push through the politics to get a real policy solution across the line.
CHAPTER MARKERS:
00:00 Introduction
00:31 Builders Movement Intro
01:30 Meet The Participants
03:52 Ali Joins With Skepticism
05:47 Kai On Trust And Dialogue
07:21 Three Day Solution Session
11:12 Trauma And Finding Empathy
13:58 Relationship Building Debate
24:37 Men In The Room
25:59 Choosing Medicaid Extension
27:22 Wraparound Support Systems
30:12 Partisan Pushback and Perseverance
33:25 Backlash and Unfinished Work
36:08 Good for the Soul Picks
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Builders Movement: https://buildersmovement.org/
Citizen Solutions Wisconsin: http://citizensolutions.us/citizensolutions/wi
GOOD FOR THE SOUL:
Ali’s: My Friends by Friedrich Bachman
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/217163697-my-friends
Kateri’s - East of Eden by John Steinbeck https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4406.East_of_Eden
Kai’s - Hammersmith Odeon Concerts https://www.concertarchives.org/venues/hammersmith-odeon
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