Can shame actually make a sexual desire feel stronger?
In this episode, Sex, Love & Relationship Coach Lauren Goyette explores the complicated relationship between sexual shame, fantasy, taboo, curiosity, secrecy, and desire.
Why does telling yourself “I shouldn't want this” sometimes make the thought even harder to ignore? Does having a fantasy mean you actually want to experience it in real life? And what happens when we stop asking “What's wrong with me?” and start getting curious about what our desires might actually mean?
In this episode, we explore:
✨ The difference between guilt and shame
✨ Why trying not to think about something can keep it psychologically active
✨ Why fantasy doesn't automatically equal intention
✨ The role of taboo, secrecy, novelty, and emotional intensity
✨ Why intensity doesn't always mean preference
✨ Questions to ask instead of “Is this normal?”
✨ How curiosity can create more self-awareness than shame
Your sexuality isn't a morality test.
Your fantasies aren't a character assessment.
And having a thought doesn't mean you have to act on it.
Let's get curious instead of judgmental.
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