One partner starts feeling rejected. The other starts feeling pressured. Before long, you're stuck in a cycle where the more one person pursues, the more the other pulls away.
In this episode of Desire Dialogues with sex coach Lauren, we're talking about mismatched desire and why having different desire levels doesn't automatically mean you're sexually incompatible.
We get into:
✨ The chaser/avoider cycle
✨ Why sexual rejection can feel so personal
✨ How pressure can make desire even harder to access
✨ How resentment starts building on BOTH sides
✨ Why desire naturally changes with stress, hormones, relationships, and different seasons of life
✨ How to create connection without making every intimate moment lead to sex
And I'm giving you one simple question to try with your partner:
"What kind of connection feels good for you tonight?"
Because intimacy doesn't have to be a yes/no question about sex.
Sometimes creating more room for connection is exactly what allows desire to breathe again.
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Take my free Sensual Archetype Experience to discover some of the conditions, experiences, and types of connection that may help desire come alive for you.
You can find the quiz, The Pleasure Collective, private coaching, and all my other resources here:
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🎙️ Desire Dialogues with Lauren Goyette
Conversations about sex, desire, relationships, intimacy, communication, and understanding yourself a little fucking better.
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