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Sometimes, you can spend so much of your life being there for everyone else that you forget what it feels like to be fully present with yourself.
In this episode, I sit down with Bri Clay, a Board-certified sexologist and certified sensual shadow work practitioner, for a conversation about reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we may have quieted, neglected, or lost along the way. We talk about what happens when we begin to question the messages we have carried about our bodies, our desires, and what we are allowed to want.
Because sometimes your next chapter is not about becoming someone new. It is about finding your way back to the woman who was there all along.
Topics Covered:
00:00:00 – Episode snippet
00:01:10 – Your Next Chapter Live event!
00:02:50 – Introducing our guest, Bri Clay
00:05:05 – Unlearning shame around pleasure
00:08:47 – Gender double standards around sexuality
00:11:10 – Sponsor: First Light Home Care of Bowie
00:14:23 – What is sexology?
00:18:08 – Cultural messages about pleasure
00:21:05 – Slowing down to receive pleasure
00:26:51 – Reconnecting through self-care
00:28:50 – Seeing your body without criticism
00:38:58 – Rebuilding intimacy in marriage
00:41:24 – Discovering what you like now
00:42:40 – Building emotional safety in intimacy
00:46:24 – Reclaiming sensuality after divorce
00:48:50 – Knowing when you’re ready to date
00:51:10 – One word: “Reclaim”
00:52:18 – Connect with Bri Clay
Episode Mentioned:
Episode 40: Me, Myself and I: How to Date Yourself After Divorce
Episode 80: The Real Reason It's Hard for You to Receive
Key Takeaways:
“You have to write your own pleasure script because it’s not always about sex. Pleasure is what brings you joy.”
“Give yourself grace. Look at yourself, compliment yourself, embrace yourself.”
“Be your biggest cheerleader. Nobody should love your body more than you love your body.”
✨Season 5 Sponsor:
Our Season 5 sponsor is FirstLight Home Care of Bowie. They are a Black-woman owned non-medical home care agency serving families throughout Prince George’s County, MD since 2017. They offer specialized in-home care for individuals navigating: Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease, Parkinson’s Disease, Stroke Recovery, and Diabetes. Please visit their website or call 301-778-1988 for more information.Join us for Your nEXt Chapter Live! Sunday 11/8 at 1 pm in the DMV 🎉
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/your-next-chapter-live-tickets-2000830768690
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About the Guest
Bri Clay is the founder of Life After Divorce LLC, a certified life coach, American Board Certified Sexologist, and sensual shadow work practitioner. Drawing from her own experience after a 25-year marriage, she helps women rebuild with confidence, reconnect with themselves, and create fulfilling new chapters after divorce or significant relationship endings.
Connect with Bri:
Web: https://yourlifeafterdivorce.com/
YT: https://www.youtube.com/@briharperclay451
About Your Host
Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE!
Connect with Dr. Nicole:
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/yournextchap
Your nEXt Chapter podcast explores the challenges and triumphs women face as they reclaim joy, reimagine the future, and redefine their identity after divorce and other unexpected life transitions. Join Dr. Nicole as she shares insights from her journey as a high-achieving professional woman navigating divorce while walking in her Christian faith.
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