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Dating after divorce is not just about finding someone new. It is also about learning not to lose yourself again.
In this solo episode, I share five things I have learned from dating after divorce and what this season has taught me about myself. From recognizing inconsistency and trusting my instincts to doing my due diligence and becoming unapologetic about my needs and boundaries, I reflect on what it means to date with greater clarity and intention.
Together, we explore what it means to stop giving endless chances, believe people when they show you who they are, and choose discernment over attachment.
After spending years learning how to stay, I am learning that sometimes the next chapter is about knowing when to walk away.
Topics Covered:
00:00:00 – Episode snippet
00:02:01 – Five lessons from dating after divorce
00:04:44 – Rediscovering myself before dating
00:06:30 – Lesson 1: 60 is not the new 40
00:09:56 – Sponsor: First Light Home Care of Bowie
00:12:47 – Thinking about long-term compatibility
00:17:44 – Lesson 2: GIFs are code for low effort
00:20:33 – Lesson 3: Third dates are overrated
00:22:26 – Being capable of necessary endings
00:23:19 – Lesson 4: A little “Magnum PI” energy
00:27:07 – Lesson 5: It’s OK to be “high maintenance”
00:29:22 – Protecting my boundaries
00:30:44 – Why inconsistency is a deal breaker
00:32:36 – Believe them when they show you who they are
00:34:25 – Taking a pause from dating apps
00:35:16 – Being happy while waiting
00:37:16 – Your Next Chapter Live event!
Key Takeaways:
“I believe that God is going to allow me to meet that person when the timing is right.”
“I am capable of amicably saying goodbye and of necessary endings. I am capable of centering myself and my needs and speaking up for myself.”
✨Season 5 Sponsor:
Our Season 5 sponsor is FirstLight Home Care of Bowie. They are a Black-woman owned non-medical home care agency serving families throughout Prince George’s County, MD since 2017. They offer specialized in-home care for individuals navigating: Dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease, Parkinson’s Disease, Stroke Recovery, and Diabetes. Please visit their website or call 301-778-1988 for more information.
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About Your Host
Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE!
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Your nEXt Chapter podcast explores the challenges and triumphs women face as they reclaim joy, reimagine the future, and redefine their identity after divorce and other unexpected life transitions. Join Dr. Nicole as she shares insights from her journey as a high-achieving professional woman navigating divorce while walking in her Christian faith.
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