In this episode, Kat and Ewa continue the conversation about sober dating and what happens when “I don’t really drink” slowly turns into a very different reality.
We’re talking about the insecurity that can come up when someone who drinks dates a sober woman, why your sobriety can sometimes become a mirror for someone else’s relationship with alcohol, and the ways that insecurity can show up through defensiveness, jokes, minimizing, or over-explaining.
We also break down the red flags and green flags we’ve learned to pay attention to while dating sober: from getting cagey about how often they drink to being completely honest about their lifestyle from the start. Plus, we talk about asking better questions early on, trusting what someone’s actions are showing you, and remembering that you don’t need someone to live exactly like you do — but you do deserve honesty and respect around something that is such a big part of your life.
And yes, we want your stories. Has a guy ever told you he “barely drinks” only for you to find out that was definitely not the case? DM us because we know we’re not the only ones.
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