To mark 50,000 subscribers, I went through your comments and answered 30 real questions from husbands and wives: sexless marriage, desire, rejection, menopause, porn, attraction, pressure, and whether intimacy can actually come back.
I've alternated them, one from a man, one from a woman, to show both sides of the story.
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A note before you watch: these are short answers to big questions, based on the little I know from each comment. They are not individual therapy, and they are not advice for abusive or coercive relationships.
Thank you for 50,000. It's beyond anything I imagined when we started.
⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 — Who is Laura How?
01:08 — How much sex is normal in marriage?
01:57 — Keeping lust alive after 20 years
02:25 — Married or just roommates?
03:07 — Lonely in marriage for 23 years
04:22 — Is sex a need in marriage?
05:44 — Why does sex feel like a chore?
06:14 — Do sexually generous women exist?
06:48 — When a wife has no desire
07:40 — Sex without emotional engagement
08:05 — He expects sex without effort
09:36 — Getting your wife to watch these videos
10:19 — Low libido and saving your marriage
12:05 — Asking for sex or pressuring?
13:19 — Guilted into sex by your husband
14:19 — Walking on eggshells in marriage
15:24 — "He only wants me for sex"
16:03 — Painful sex after menopause
17:04 — Convincing your wife to try HRT
17:56 — Body image and intimacy
18:41 — Losing attraction to your wife
20:31 — When the husband doesn't want sex
21:54 — "She told me to look outside the marriage"
23:10 — Porn and OnlyFans in marriage
24:04 — She won't work through her trauma
25:05 — Can a sexless marriage be fixed?
26:44 — Trapped and afraid to divorce
28:27 — Erectile dysfunction and intimacy
29:23 — Is a sexless marriage bad for wives too?
31:19 — The Good Wife Club and Good Husband Club
32:30 — Thank you for 50,000
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