Stop Pretending You Don't Want It

This is a raw, unplanned little episode built around one funny, provocative thought experiment: what if you could actually choose your desires?

Sparked by a conversation with a listener wrestling with mismatched desire in his marriage, Thorhildur explores why we don't get to pick what lights us up, whether it's wanting multiple partners, wanting to be more adventurous, or wanting to want something entirely different than what we do. She talks candidly about trying to suppress her own desires over the years, what she's learned from chasing (and sometimes catching) forbidden fantasies, and why she's become both more accepting and more intentional about what she wants as a result.

It's playful, honest, and a little unfiltered, exactly the kind of conversation Thorhildur says she dreams of having with a whole community of people brave enough to own their desires without shame.

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