Who taught you what “strong” is supposed to look like and what part of you did you learn to hide to fit that picture? That question kicks off a conversation that might change how you think about leadership, persuasion, and your own emotional life.
We’re joined by Jennifer B. Gardner, a trial lawyer with nearly four decades of courtroom experience and a keynote speaker on persuasive, emotionally intelligent communication. Jennifer grew up believing she had to be the strong one, then entered a profession that often rewards a hard shell and punishes sensitivity. What she found, through years of winning cases and studying the craft, is that sensitivity is not a credibility problem. It’s a pattern-spotting, connection-building advantage when you know how to use it.
We unpack what high sensitivity looks like in real life, from intense emotional resonance to being deeply affected by environments, noise, and group dynamics. Then we get practical: self-awareness that goes beyond naming emotions, self-regulation that helps you choose response over reaction, and empathy that reads the room without projecting your own feelings onto others. Jennifer shares her go-to tools for deep listening, including the deceptively simple “Tell me more about that,” plus how mirroring someone’s language can build trust fast in negotiations, sales, and leadership conversations.
We also put up a guardrail: where does influence end and manipulation begin? We explore intention, service, consent, and the sobering next-day test: will both people feel good about the outcome tomorrow?
If you want to lead with more authenticity, communicate with emotional intelligence, and persuade without losing your integrity, hit play. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show.
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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenniferbgardner/
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