Ce Eshelman, LMFT, sits down with Jen Lumanlan — host of Your Parenting Mojo and author of Parenting Beyond Power — and starts by picking a fight. Not really. Jen once made an episode called "Most of what you know about attachment is probably wrong." Ce owns a place called The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. What follows is not a debate so much as a really good untangling: what the attachment research actually says, who it was built on, and what still holds up when your child arrived at age six with a file folder and a garbage bag.
Then they get into the meatier stuff you can use today. Collaborative problem-solving when your child’s survival brain gets to the conversation first. What to do when the unmet need underneath the behavior is I don't believe adults keep children safe. Why the safest parent gets the worst behavior. And whether it's too late for a fourteen-year-old who came home at nine. (Spoiler: it isn't.)
Bring your coffee. Bring your skepticism. Bring the part of you that's tired. Both of these women get you.
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From Ce Eshelman:
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Unmuted Love is a free podcast for parents of children from difficult beginnings of adoption and abuse trauma. Ce is an adoptive mom of two, step-mom of two, and an Attachment and Trauma Specialist. The Unmuted Love Podcast is part of Love Matters Parenting Society and The Attach Place Center for Strengthening Relationships, LLC. For more information about joining this vibrant community of parents, https://www.lovemattersparenting.com/lmps1.
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