#134 - "How to stop People Pleasing" With Tanna Barker

Your worth is not something you earn. It's what you bring.We've all heard that before. And still we hang the degrees on the wall, chase the title, check the bank account, and wait for something outside of us to say we've finally made it.Tanna Barker spent most of her life doing exactly that, and I knew I needed you to meet her. She grew up the new girl over and over again, remaking herself in every neighborhood just to fit in; lying about where she lived; having friends drop her off in front of the big houses across the street so no one would know the truth. Tanna shares what it costs to build a life on what looks right instead of what feels right; the question that turned her marriage around (get this: what's the common denominator?); and the simple morning practice she built so her worth is never again up for a vote.She calls it being self-full, not selfish. And she doesn't hand you her framework; she shows you how to build your own, so nobody can take it away from you.Somewhere in this conversation I said out loud a thought I had never put into words: if I were worthy of it, I'd have it already. If that thought lives in you too, this episode is for you.Worth isn't a finish line you cross. It's what you carried in with you. Send this to the person whose name just crossed your mind; there's a reason it did.Connect with Tanna on Instagram: @tannabarkerutahAsk her for your free I Am Worthy card.📘 Connect with Tanna Barker ➡️ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tannabarkerutah00:00 Where does your worth really come from?01:06 Your worth is what you bring, not what you earn02:49 Is it a Utah thing or a human thing?06:39 Growing up the new girl, over and over10:30 Lying about where I lived13:07 Deciding what you can be proud of15:13 "If I was worthy, I'd already have it"18:44 Do you like the story you tell?20:56 Put up your sails22:11 The common denominator25:16 Day one of choosing yourself27:32 Self-full, not selfish29:18 The I AMM Worthy morning practice33:14 Building your own framework35:48 From victim to hero of your story37:58 Learning to trust your gut40:05 Running away at 1544:47 Seven years of questioning everything49:10 "I still have the light"50:47 Culture, doctrine, and a mother's approval54:23 Being true to yourself (the pink pedicure)56:10 Grace from grown kids57:59 Connect with Tanna1:01:41 Who needs to hear this?Let me know what part stuck out to you in the comments below:Want the Podcast Database I talked about? Get it here: https://mariannehickman.com/database🔔 Subscribe now and start building the life you've always dreamed of with me as your support. YOU'VE GOT THIS.📘 Connect with Marianne ➡️ 801-509-5495 ➡️ https://mariannehickman.com ➡️ https://instagram.com/marianne__hickman ➡️ https://tiktok.com/@marianne__hickman ➡️ https://facebook.com/MarianneEHickman ➡️ https://www.skool.com/mastery-hive-7407/about ➡️ https://www.threads.net/@marianne__hickmanFind out more at www.mariannehickman.com Subscribe to my newsletter here: https://hive.mariannehickman.com/newsletter#TheMarianneHickmanShow