What happens when you stop allowing other people's expectations, opinions, and judgments to determine who you are? Actress Erika Christensen joins Alexis for an intimate exploration of self-worth, identity, authenticity, and the experiences that quietly shape the way we see ourselves. Erika reflects on entering Hollywood at just 12 years old and growing up in an industry where appearance, performance, and external validation are part of the job. From being asked to alter her appearance as a teenager to navigating motherhood, aging, beauty standards, and her relationship with her own body, Erika shares how she has learned to separate who she actually is from who the world expects her to be. The conversation goes deeper into Erika's experience with Dianetics and her understanding of the "reactive mind"—how painful experiences can become unconscious fears, assumptions, and behavioral patterns that continue influencing our present lives. This episode explains what happens when past pain becomes identity, why awareness can restore choice, and why the things we believe are "just who I am" may actually be learned responses that can be examined. At its core, this is a conversation about coming home to yourself—and realizing that growth doesn't require rejecting the person you used to be.
"You can survive anything when you know who you are, what you believe in, that you don't need other people to validate you, that you are worthy." — Erika Christensen
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00:00 — Welcome to Look At Me Now
00:44 — Growing Up in Hollywood
02:07 — Self-Worth and External Validation
05:18 — Discovering Dianetics
07:09 — Understanding the Reactive Mind
09:09 — When Pain Becomes Identity
10:08 — Erika's Personal Experience Confronting Fear
12:11 — Why We Don't Always Know What's Holding Us Back
14:46 — Taking Your Power Back
16:07 — The Soul-Body Paradox
18:14 — How the Past Colors the Present
22:01 — The Truth of Who You Are
24:23 — Social Media vs. "Service Media"
28:53 — Self-Worth Must Come From Within
30:55 — Erika's Experience With Fame
35:11 — Motherhood, Aging and Hollywood
36:13 — Choosing Strength Over Making Herself Smaller
39:11 — Body Hair, Beauty Standards and Confidence
42:35 — Womanhood Without Shame
44:39 — Alexis on Emotional Repression
47:29 — Acting and Authentic Expression
51:41 — Giving Yourself Permission to Be Fully Expressed
52:50 — Breaking Free From the Reactive Mind
56:03 — Trusting Yourself Again
57:01 — Erika's Look At Me Now Moment
58:09 — Why You're Allowed to Change Your Mind
58:56 — Where to Find Erika Christensen
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Follow Erika @erikachristensen
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