Leadership Tips | Stop Trying to Fit In

This week I'm connecting two ideas: my Breaking the Fourth Wall concept and Brené Brown's research on fitting in versus belonging.

Brené's research found something surprising, fitting in and belonging are not the same thing. Fitting in is actually the greatest barrier to belonging. It's a survival strategy: reading the room and becoming who you need to be to get accepted. Belonging is the opposite. It's internal, it's unconditional, and it doesn't ask you to change who you are.

I dig into why this matters for leaders who want more self-confidence, what Brené's research says about belonging and standing alone, and how this connects directly to why breaking the fourth wall on your team matters.

This week's tip: Notice when you're fitting in. Notice when you're getting smaller. And when you catch it, name the fear, then say the thing anyway.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Brené Brown: The Call to Courage (Netflix) 
• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown 
• Dare to Lead by Brené Brown  

Go back and listen to last week's episode on Breaking the Fourth Wall if you haven't already.

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