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Overcoming Victim Mentality: How to Rewrite the Story of Your Life | Episode 40

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In today's episode we discuss a powerful topic, the victim mentality. This concept comes from “The Drama Triangle” in relationships, but can be applied in our individual lives, and our relationship with life itself. If  you feel out of control, or out of sync with the flow of life, this conversation helps us regain our empowerment and regain control on how we move forward with life
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Key Moments: 

  • Victim Mentality = a mindset in which a person tends to recognize/consider themselves a victim of the negative actions of others
  • “By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” 
  • The Drama Triangle: Dr. Stephen Karpman - The Victim, The Persecutor, The Savior: creates dysfunctional social interactions in relationships, and stems from a power game between individuals. However these roles can extend further into our relationship with life itself 
  • Signs of victim mentality: lack of accountability, resentment, blaming, comparison, powerless, not responsible, difficulty accepting criticism 
  • Stems as a learned behavior from childhood, when parents enact manipulation power struggles, dismissive, or neglectful behavior in our homes 
  • The victim mentality is highly correlated to TRUST 
    • Self Trust - the ability to continue to show up for yourself no matter the external situation 
    • Overthinking/ contemplating decisions = a lack of self trust, searching for control to avoid potential pain, create multiple scenarios and catastrophizing how things MIGHT go 

Steps to let go of the victim mentality  

  1. Notice the Triggers - rewriting your story and what is happening 
  2. Take responsibility - through actions and confidence 
  3. Have compassion, forgiveness and self love for yourself - these triggers come from trauma and this step is critical 
  4. Say no, establish more boundaries in life 

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