145 | I Can’t Fully Cut Him Off: Why Do I Still Miss Him? (IFS partswork can help)

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Why do I still miss him? I've done the work, I know what's true, so why can't I fully cut him off? What is wrong with me?

Nothing. There's a part of you doing exactly what she was built to do, and today I'm teaching you how to lead her instead of fighting her.

This episode is Internal Family Systems applied directly to the longing you can't seem to shake. I walk you through my own part, what she feels like, what she's actually afraid of, and the two-option lie that kept me stuck for years.

We explore:

• Why there are no bad parts of you, including the one that wants to text him at 10pm
• Three questions to ask your own part (pause the episode and answer them. This is where breakthroughs happen!)
• What attunement means and why your parts need it more than they need correction
• Compassionate leadership: why your protector part isn’t in control
• What to actually do when the feeling is intense

Your one step: ask that part of you what do you actually need right now? Write down whatever comes. Don't edit it.

Email me and tell me what she said. I read every one and I write back personally! 🕊️

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