123 | Was it love? Or limerence? The reason you can’t stop thinking about him

What if your obsession wasn't a character flaw? What if the intrusive thoughts, the emotional dependency, the way your entire inner world revolved around whether he responded...what if that had a name?

Today I'm teaching on limerence, one of the most important concepts I cover with my clients, and one that almost no one in the Christian faith space is talking about. I share the research of psychologist Dorothy Tennov, the neuroscience of what limerence actually does to your brain (dopamine, intermittent reinforcement, affair fog), and what it felt like inside of my own story.

Then, let’s draw a clear theological line: limerence itself is not sin. God created us to bond and connect. But I walk you through exactly where it crosses the mark, and then give you two practical steps to start moving forward without shame.

You'll learn:

• What limerence is and why it matters for your healing today
• The neuroscience of why you couldn't just stop
• Why your prefrontal cortex went offline and what that means about the choices you made
• The honest theological answer to "is limerence a sin?"
• Practical steps to interrupt the loop and redirect the longing toward what it’s actually looking for
• Why you are not weak and what healing actually requires

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