In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with sex counselor, educator, and author Julie Merriman. We explore what happens to desire when you have spent years taking care of everyone else while your own body, pleasure, and sense of aliveness slowly fade into the background.
Julie shares how her work grew out of decades of supporting women through burnout, along with her own experience of hitting that wall in midlife and finding her way back to feeling again. Throughout the conversation, we talk about the shame so many people carry around sex, how a dysregulated nervous system shuts down desire, and why so many women end up in performance instead of actually experiencing pleasure.
In this conversation, Julie shares simple ways to begin reconnecting with your body, including awareness practices and what she calls pleasure mapping as a way to rediscover sensation without pressure. We also talk about fake orgasms, honesty in relationships, and how intimacy deepens when you start telling the truth about what you actually feel and want.
This episode is an invitation back into your body, where desire, connection, and pleasure can come back online in a way that feels honest and alive.
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