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If you've ever wondered if you're sexually repressed or inhibited, this is the eipsode for you!
Discover the signs that you're sexually inhibited, why so many people hold back sexually and what to do to become more sexually authentic and free to be yourself! Let your freak flag (or vanilla flag) fly.
Host and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon goes over common patterns she sees with clients as well as her own past experiences feeling repressed and uncomfortable with sexuality.
In this episode, Heather shares practical ways to notice when you are holding back, how to talk about desires with a partner, and how to work with the parts of yourself that feel protective or ashamed.
Key topics
- Sexual inhibition can show up as keeping fantasies private, staying quiet during sex, or feeling like your desires are weird or inappropriate.
- A “low libido” may actually be hidden desire that has been buried by self-judgment, fear of being judged, or difficulty naming wants.
- Private sexual interests, like porn fantasies, romance novels, or kink scenarios, can be a sign that part of your sexuality is not being shared with a partner.
- Cultural conditioning plays a major role, including messages from family, friends, school, church, purity culture, and gender socialization.
- Safety matters first. Heather notes that sexual inhibition can be tied to real concerns about unwanted attention, objectification, and sexual aggression.
- Substance use during sex can be a clue that inhibition is getting in the way of pleasure and ease.
Timestamps
00:00 - What sexual inhibition is and what this episode will cover
00:31 - Signs you may be repressed or censoring yourself
05:36 - How socialization teaches people what sex is “allowed” to be
06:06 - Church, purity culture, and shame-based sexual messaging
07:03 - Sexual safety, unwanted attention, and guardedness
09:25 - Family modeling, mixed examples, and emotional risk around sex
13:36 - How civilization can lead us to exile our primal side
15:00 - Reconciling the proper self with the sexual self
16:25 - Integrating lust and emotional connection
17:24 - Using parts work to welcome the more wild parts
19:50 - How sharing desires can create intimacy and closeness
20:49 - Substance use as a sign that inhibition may be present
21:10 - Befriending the protective inner voice
21:40 - Freeing your sexuality without needing to be stereotypically wild
23:06 - How to ask for curiosity and safety from a partner
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