Sometimes a date can take a turn for the worse, and it’s not entirely clear why.
In the early stages, it doesn’t matter too much. If you’re not that interested and not 100% invested, just move on - life really is too short.
But matchmaker Gina Hendrix says often, when we look back on why things took a turn, we can learn a lot - and more times than not it comes down to one thing: we weren’t curious enough.
Not detective-style curiosity, trying to figure out if he's lying or a match on paper, but real, innocent interest in another human being.
Not only does that curiosity give us more opportunity to spot a mis-match early on, it’s also a sexy, magnetic quality in a person.
The theme of genuine curiosity comes up throughout this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker.
One caller asks why men feel intimidated by her lifestyle - have they been properly pre-qualified? Another asks how to pick profile prompts that spark real depth instead of surface-level small talk. And we hear from one woman who wants to know why some men go flakey after a couple of conversations.
The conversation turns to whether where you live makes dating more difficult, why dating and manners in general seem to have declined, and how to know when a divorced or widowed man is really ready to start dating again.
The big takeaway from this episode of Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix: bring your energy and your curiosity everywhere you go, because that, more than anything, is what people remember.
New episodes every week. Follow Gina on TikTok and Instagram @MatchmakerGinaHendrix and visit ginahendrix.com to learn more about her matchmaking for men and coaching programs for women.
CHAPTERS:
(00:00) Introduction
(02:07) Detective vs Conversation
(05:23) Saying No With Grace
(09:31) Profiles That Spark Talk
(10:54) Flaky Messages Wiggle Room
(13:37) Apps Culture And First Dates
(24:45) Prequalify And Bring Energy
