Waiting for perfection is a trap too many of us are all too willing to fall into. The perfect time, the perfect situation, the perfect man.
In this episode of Secret’s They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker, Gina Hendrix sets a challenge - lean in on the nice guys until it’s a “hell no,” and stop letting a conditioned instinct to turn and run pass for good judgment.
This podcast is all about helping women over 40 as they navigate dating apps, figure out what men really want, and search for the man they can finally settle down with.
Gina opens the episode with the sign she taped up in her bathroom when she was reinventing herself from celebrity stylist to matchmaker: “Did you do anything to change your life today?”
It’s a question she still asks herself daily, and one that can help women as they navigate the world of dating on their journey to find love.
The Q&A kicks off with a caller who keeps knowing after one date that she isn’t interested but feels guilty when a man has paid for dinner, another asks how to feel comfortable dating someone who moves in more sophisticated circles, and we hear from a woman who is dating a man with an alcohol problem.
We cover what to do when men keep calling you sexy, how to ask good questions, and how to spot men who are lying on the dating apps about how much money they earn.
The topic of dating widowers also comes up. It can be a difficult one to navigate, but as one lady points out, the answer usually lies in opening up the right lines of communication in a sensitive way.
The takeaway from this episode of Secrets They’ll Only Tell a Matchmaker: don’t wait for perfect, because it never comes. Ask yourself every day if you did anything to improve your life, say yes when it’s uncomfortable but healthy, and stop filling your dance card with men who don’t deserve you. Be kind to the good ones, but you’re not anyone’s nurse, so keep your standards high.
CHAPTERS:
(00:00) Introduction
(06:20) Dating Up Confidence
(08:53) Dating an Addict
(18:16) Dating a Widower
(20:32) When to Move In
(22:13) Dating App Effort
(25:58) First Date Flow
(29:34) Kick Him to Curb
