In the series finale of The Weight of the Chair, Tanya Engesether casts a clear, specific, and deeply honest picture of what changes when a leader has done the inner work — the honest, countercultural, body-and-soul-and-spirit work of tending to herself that this series has been describing.
Not theory. Not aspiration. What actually becomes different.
The presence that comes when the nervous system is no longer running a continuous background threat assessment. The ability to receive feedback without it becoming a verdict on personhood. The limits set with honesty rather than apology. The groundedness that stays when the emotional temperature in the room rises. The leading from overflow rather than from the bottom of the tank.
And beyond the leadership — what changes in the relationship with the team, with the self, and with God. The faith that becomes sturdy rather than performed. The quality of prayer that shifts when the whole self shows up rather than the managed version. The peace that guards rather than the peace that depends on outcomes.
This is not a destination. It is a direction. And Tanya names that honestly too — because the work is ongoing, the returning is ongoing, and what changes is not that the hard things stop. What changes is the baseline you come back to between them.
Key Takeaway
The work does not produce a life without difficulty. It produces a different quality of life within it. A different baseline to return to between the hard things. More presence, more honesty, more groundedness, more genuine usefulness to the people you lead and the God you serve. That is what is available on the other side. And it is worth every difficult step of getting there.
I hope this episode blesses you!
Xoxo,
Tanya
Episode Resources:
Episode Catalog
My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary
My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider: EllieMD_Tanya Engesether
*I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links.
3 Ways To Connect With Me:
1️⃣COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Book a FREE discovery call with me to find out more about functional health coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/coaching
2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community
3️⃣ CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact
"Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they’re meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"
If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, I’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.
Click here to view our privacy policy.
Reminder: The information you hear on this show is not meant to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease. It is for educational purposes only. Always consult with your own health practitioner before you make any changes to your health.
