Why Healthy Relationships Still Have Conflicts | Ep. 194

What makes a relationship healthy, and how do you know when conflict has crossed the line into something toxic?In this episode, I sit down with Heather Melville to talk about breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, communicating through conflict, and learning how to repair after a fight. We explore why healthy couples still disagree, how “I” statements can change the tone of a conversation, and why a sincere apology is about much more than simply saying “I’m sorry.”Heather shares insights on apology styles, resolving conflict, personal growth, and the relationship principles discussed in The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver. We also dive into the harder side of relationships, including recognizing toxic patterns, why shame can keep people silent, financial reasons people may stay in unhappy relationships, and why talking openly with a neutral third party can be so powerful.Whether you’re dating, married, recovering from a difficult relationship, or simply want to communicate better with your partner, this conversation offers practical ways to handle conflict, recognize unhealthy patterns, and build stronger, healthier relationships.0:00 Intro to Heather Melville about breaking toxic patterns3:50 A healthy relationship doesn’t mean no conflict4:44 “I” statements and the repair and how to come back, apologize7:26 Apology languages, tone of voice, is it sincere14:00 Self growth and learning for Heather’s clients21:40 Resolving a fight24:00 The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver30:45 How to deal with a toxic relationship?35:35 Shame loves secrecy38:00 Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Dr. Susan Jeffers39:40 Financial reasons to stay in a bad relationship40:43 Easier to talk to a neutral person to be totally honest Heather Melville is a relationship coach and founder of Healthy Relationships Coaching, where she helps women heal from toxic relationships and rebuild their self-worth, confidence, and ability to create healthy connections. Drawing from her own healing journey, professional training, and extensive study of relationships, Heather is certified through the coaching program led by Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes. She is also pursuing certifications in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and hypnotherapy. Her mission is to help women break unhealthy patterns, rediscover themselves, and create happier, healthier relationships.healthy.relationships.coaching@gmail.comhttps://www.healthyrelationships.info/https://www.instagram.com/healthyrelationships.coach/https://www.facebook.com/people/Healthy-Relationships-Coaching/61558475200026/Join The Best Asian Matchmaker’s Database Here: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com/profileCall May for help: (310) 867-0851Email: may@twoasianmatchmakers.comWebsite: www.twoasianmatchmakers.comFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakersInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermayTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@asianmatchmaker88LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/You know how high-net-worth men are accomplished in their careers but too busy to date? They value time more than money, yet struggle to find meaningful connection. What I do is learn who they want to attract, screen the women for them, and make the introductions—so instead of wasting time, they meet the right woman and fall in love.May talks about all things dating and Asian dating. She’s super nosy about people’s love lives and just loves love. May is a Professional Matchmaker and Dating Coach. May is the founder of Two Asian Matchmakers, a boutique matchmaking agency. Since 2009, May has helped successful men who appreciate Asian culture and value meaningful connection find their ideal Asian partner in the United States and Asia.May is a highly respected and active member of the Matchmakers Alliance and Global Love Institute in New York.