Last week, we explored what it means to become the bus driver instead of getting carried away by every thought and emotion that comes along.
This week, I'd like to take that one step further.
Because once you realize you're not your thoughts, the next question becomes:
Which ways of thinking are quietly creating more suffering in your life?
In this week's encore episode, I want to introduce you to one of my favorite psychological tools:
Inversion Thinking.
Instead of asking, "How can I become happier?"
We'll ask a much more useful question:
"How could I make my life more miserable?"
It may sound backwards, but it's surprisingly powerful.
Because once you identify the habits that create suffering, all you have to do is reverse them.
In this episode, I'll walk you through six common thinking patterns that keep us stuck, and how turning each one upside down can help you create a more peaceful, joyful, and meaningful life.
Episode timestamps
00:51 — Why inversion thinking works so well
03:05 — Miserable Habit #1: Living in "shoulds"
04:40 — Miserable Habit #2: Fighting reality instead of accepting it
07:18 — Miserable Habit #3: Resisting or reacting to your emotions
11:37 — Miserable Habit #4: Seeing triggers as injustices instead of teachers
14:49 — Miserable Habit #5: Seeing people as all good or all bad
18:17 — Miserable Habit #6: Believing happiness exists somewhere in the future
22:51 — The six principles, summarized
24:20 — Your homework: Reverse each principle in your own life
One of the greatest freedoms I've discovered is this:
Life isn't about finding a place where you'll only experience "positive" thoughts or feelings.
Just like we've talked about over the last few weeks, every school bus has all kinds of passengers.
The goal isn't to get rid of half the bus.
The goal is to stay in the driver's seat.
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