This episode delves into the transformative power of exploring sexuality, embracing vulnerability, and rewriting societal narratives around pleasure. Carly Pifer, founder of Aurore and a passionate advocate for authentic intimacy, shares her journey, insights from her workshops, and thoughts on breaking down shame and disconnection around sex and desire. Interviewed by Alice Guevarra.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction to Carly and Aurore
01:20 - The origin story and the role of travel in her journey
02:52 - Connecting storytelling with healing and hope
05:18 - How to get men to open up about intimacy
06:50 - Differences between traveling and real-life dating states
08:55 - Openness around sex influenced by upbringing and rebellion
10:32 - The shame and fear surrounding sexuality from childhood
12:03 - The dangers of fear-based sex education and unlearning shame
13:02 - Patterns of disconnection in relationships and society
14:21 - The importance of sharing diverse sex stories
16:03 - Claiming pleasure and overcoming shame through storytelling
17:21 - Unblocking desire after sexual trauma or shame
18:54 - Breaking down desire into manageable steps
19:50 - Comparing literature and visual porn and their effects
22:42 - The importance of slow, responsive desire for women
24:57 - The disconnect between societal messages and female pleasure
27:01 - How disconnection manifests in relationships and societal barriers
28:35 - The impact of societal discomfort around female sexuality
29:44 - Reclaiming pleasure and normalizing female sexual agency
33:44 - Embracing slut shaming as a term of empowerment
35:23 - Alcohol’s influence on intimacy and sober sex practices
36:48 - Practical tips for exploring sober connection
43:00 - Simple exercises to reconnect with desire through body scans
45:23 - The universal nature of shame and the desire for love
47:04 - Aurore's upcoming workshop and creative writing exercises
49:28 - Final words on embracing vulnerability, pleasure, and authenticity
Resources & Links:
Join the Aurore X Salty Workshop on May 24th to explore desire, storytelling, and vulnerability, in a space designed for safe, playful, and transformative exploration.
Song: Green by Macy Todd licensed via Audiio.
Editing and Production: Mateus Gomes
