How do you fight the lies in your head when you're trying to quit porn?
For many Christian men, the struggle isn't only the temptation itself. It's what happens in the mind afterward: shame, condemnation, fear, secrecy, and the belief that something is fundamentally wrong with you.
In this episode of the Secret Habit Podcast, Shawn Bonneteau explores how shame can keep men stuck in pornography and why learning to face, challenge, and dismantle the lies underneath that shame is such an important part of recovery.
Shawn draws from Jay Stringer's work in Unwanted and breaks down a practical four-step process he uses with men in coaching: facing the stories that create shame, defying the lies with truth, dismantling the beliefs that keep shame alive, and becoming vulnerable about what you're discovering.
A major part of the conversation is learning to recognize the difference between what shame tells you and what God actually says about you. Rather than hiding from shame, Shawn encourages you to move toward it, examine the story behind it, and use truth to challenge the lies.
In this episode, Shawn explores:
• Why shame can keep pornography addiction hidden and powerful
• How to identify the stories underneath your shame
• What it means to “swim toward the shark” instead of running from shame
• How to challenge shame with the truth of Scripture
• The difference between defying shame and dismantling shame
• Why looking at evidence from your own life can challenge false beliefs
• How vulnerability can bring hidden shame into the light
• Why quitting porn involves more than simply resisting temptation
• How learning to live from what is true can change the way you approach recovery
If you've been trying to quit porn but keep getting trapped in shame, condemnation, or the same thoughts over and over again, this episode will help you start asking a better question:
What is the lie I'm believing right now, and what is actually true?
Take the next steps with your recovery:
*Download the Freedom Foundations Recovery GuideGo through Shawn's 14-episode Freedom Foundations teaching series and learn the core concepts he uses in his coaching with Christian men working toward lasting freedom from pornography.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1tilH7mi7A2WV9vW6kvSMW0Api8P_QWbs/view?usp=drive_link
*Book a Personal Recovery Plan Session
Ready to stop guessing and get clear on your own story? The Personal Recovery Plan is a focused session where Shawn helps you understand your patterns and build a practical recovery strategy around your actual life.
https://secrethabit.ca/personalrecoveryplan/
Disclaimer:
The Secret Habit Podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. Shawn Bonneteau provides coaching, not psychotherapy, counseling, medical care, or psychological diagnosis or treatment. This podcast is not a substitute for professional mental health or medical care. Please seek support from an appropriately qualified professional for clinical or medical concerns.
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