Divorce recovery, anxiety, betrayal, emotional healing, and finding peace after divorce—if you've ever felt like your mind won't stop spinning, this episode is for you.
Why do we replay conversations, obsess over the past, or constantly worry about the future after divorce or a painful life transition?
In this episode of Doing Divorce Different, I sit down with therapist Brian Burns to explore why our minds "spin out" after divorce, betrayal, grief, cancer, and other unexpected life events. We discuss practical tools for calming anxious thoughts, letting go of what we cannot control, and finding peace even when life doesn't go as planned.
As someone who has personally walked through breast cancer, difficult seasons in marriage, and years of helping women navigate divorce, this conversation deeply resonated with me. Brian shares simple but life-changing concepts that can help you stop carrying burdens that were never yours to carry.
Whether you're considering divorce, healing after divorce, navigating betrayal, or simply feeling overwhelmed by life, this episode will remind you that peace doesn't come from controlling everything—it comes from learning where your responsibility begins and ends.
If you've ever felt emotionally exhausted from trying to fix everyone around you, this conversation is for you.
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Timestamps
(00:00) Why women "spin out" after divorce and difficult life events
(03:15) Introducing therapist Brian Burns
(07:42) Why our brains become trapped in anxiety and overthinking
(13:28) Understanding what belongs to you—and what doesn't
(20:05) The connection between betrayal, fear, and trying to control outcomes
(27:46) Lesa shares her breast cancer journey and lessons about surrender
(36:30) Faith, acceptance, and learning to live with uncertainty
(45:18) Practical tools for calming your mind when you begin spinning
(54:40) Finding peace in the middle of life's hardest seasons
(1:02:10) Final encouragement and next steps
Key Takeaways
- Trying to control other people's choices often creates more anxiety than peace.
- Healing begins when we learn the difference between our responsibility and someone else's.
- Divorce, betrayal, illness, and grief can all trigger emotional "spinning," but there are healthy ways to interrupt that cycle.
- Faith, mindfulness, and healthy boundaries help us navigate uncertainty with greater peace.
- You don't have to have every answer today. Your next right step is enough.
Guest Bio
Brian Burns is a licensed therapist, speaker, and educator who helps individuals and couples navigate anxiety, relationships, emotional healing, and personal growth. His practical approach combines clinical experience with compassionate insight, helping people understand why they become emotionally overwhelmed and how to move toward healthier patterns of thinking, communication, and peace.
