297. Why Is It So Hard To Know What We Actually Want?

In Episode 297 of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock have an honest conversation about how difficult it can be to figure out what we actually want—and how much of our desires may have been shaped by culture, family, church, other people’s expectations, or an earlier version of ourselves.

They talk about things they spent years pursuing that don’t matter nearly as much anymore, wanting validation more than the thing itself, feeling guilty for admitting certain desires, and how our definition of success changes as we get older.

00:00 - Welcome to Episode 297
03:16 - A Difficult Conversation About What We Want
04:48 - What Did You Think Life Would Look Like By Now?
06:28 - How Our Wants Change
07:02 - What Did You Spend Years Wanting?
08:03 - Realizing You Wanted the Wrong Things
09:03 - How Our Definition of Success Changes
10:36 - Who Taught You What to Want?
11:05 - Desire, Expectation, and Validation
11:23 - Feeling Guilty for Wanting Something
13:19 - Money, Ministry, and Other People’s Expectations
14:25 - Why Did Jesus Ask People What They Wanted?
15:31 - Your Desires Matter
16:03 - Did Christianity Make Us Suspicious of Desire?
16:21 - What Do You Want at This Stage of Your Life?
18:02 - Three Questions to Discover What You Want
18:19 - I Want More… I Want Less…
19:58 - Closing Thoughts