293. Why Are We So Afraid Of Disappointing People?

In this episode of Two Pastors and a Mic, Cory and Channock talk about where our fear of disappointing people comes from, why someone else’s disappointment can make us feel like we’ve done something wrong, and how much of our lives can be spent trying to manage other people’s reactions.

They also talk about the pressure many Christians carry to keep God from being disappointed in them—and why they believe it’s impossible to disappoint a God who already knows us completely.

00:00 - Welcome to the Podcast
01:39 - Why Is Disappointment So Hard?
02:44 - Who Are You Most Afraid of Disappointing?
03:04 - Expectancy vs. Expectation
05:25 - The Fear of Disappointing Ourselves
09:55 - What Happens When Someone Is Disappointed in You?
10:57 - Our Knee-Jerk Reactions to Disappointment
11:59 - Why Does Disappointment Feel Like We Did Something Wrong?
12:41 - Can We Disappoint God?
13:34 - What Happens When We’re Trying Not to Disappoint God?
13:49 - Are You Managing Everyone Else’s Reactions?
14:49 - How Fear of Disappointment Shapes Our Decisions
15:23 - Have You Changed a Decision to Avoid Disappointing Someone?
20:32 - How Many People Did Jesus Disappoint?
22:11 - Emotional Health Sometimes Disappoints People
22:21 - When Love Requires a Boundary
23:22 - Whose Disappointment Are You Trying to Avoid?
23:31 - What Is It Costing You?
23:46 - Let People Be Disappointed
25:01 - God Is Never Disappointed in You