Do you ever step in to fix things for the people you love before they even ask? What if that help is quietly taking away the very moments they need to grow?
In this episode of the Building Resilience Podcast, Leah Davidson explores the difference between helping someone and taking over for them. Drawing on her years as a speech-language pathologist in brain injury rehab and her own experience in a blended family, Leah unpacks why we rescue, from easing our own discomfort to needing to feel useful, and why the real question is never about effort but about capacity.
You'll learn how to tell rescuing apart from scaffolding, why your urge to jump in is often about settling your own nervous system, and simple language shifts that hand ownership back while keeping you connected.
Key takeaways:
- Rescuing often relieves our discomfort more than theirs.
- Needing to be needed is often tied to our sense of worth.
- Scaffolding builds capacity. Rescuing replaces it.
- Support looks different for every person and every moment.
- Tolerating someone else's struggle is a nervous system skill.
- Small language shifts can keep you connected without taking over.
- Ask what the smallest amount of help is that still lets them own it.
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