Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship even when you know it's unhealthy?
And why does the confusion often continue long after it's over?
In this episode of Out of Crazytown, I'm joined by psychologist, author, and narcissistic abuse expert Dr. Kerry McAvoy to explore one of the most powerful concepts in abuse recovery: cognitive dissonance.
We discuss why intelligent, capable people become trapped in unhealthy relationships, how gaslighting and manipulation create profound self-doubt, and why survivors often feel torn between what they know to be true and what they desperately hope is true.
Together, we unpack the psychology behind narcissistic abuse, the mental fog that keeps so many people stuck, and the first steps toward rebuilding clarity, self-trust, and lasting freedom.
If you've ever wondered, "Why couldn't I just leave?" or "Why do I still question myself?" this conversation will help you understand that your experience wasn't a sign of weakness, it was the result of a very real psychological process.
In this episode, we discuss:
⢠What cognitive dissonance is and why it keeps people stuck
⢠The difference between cognitive dissonance, trauma bonding, and codependency
⢠How gaslighting causes survivors to question their own reality
⢠Why hope can become part of the psychological trap
⢠What it looks like to "wake up" to the truth
⢠How to begin rebuilding self-trust and moving forward
Whether you're still in a toxic relationship, navigating the aftermath, or supporting someone who is, this episode offers insight, validation, and practical guidance for reclaiming your life.
Â
Dr. McAvoy's Website
Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse-Podcast
Love You More-Book
Surviving To Thriving: A Six-Step Blueprint to Narcissistic Abuse Healing and Recovery
WINNING: Rewiring Your Brain and Reclaiming Your Life After Toxic Love
