What happens when sexual satisfaction stops being something you mainly seek from another person… and becomes something you learn to cultivate within yourself?
In this episode, I'm sitting down with Tom, who works particularly with men around embodiment, self-connection, and developing a more conscious relationship with their erotic energy.
We're talking about his own journey when it comes to feeling fulfilled in a sexual relationship. And the way he chose to go about that was by first turning towards his own body, arousal, and relationship with his sexual energy.
So this episode is filled with a very honest and real conversation about a man deepening into his own sexual world through self-pleasure, curiosity, and years of exploration. And also about how the insights and expertise that came out of that journey have gradually started to influence intimacy and partner sex as well, alongside the men's work he offers now.
As usual, I'm bringing in my own touch, questions, and reflections, and occasionally a perspective from me as a woman on themes that are primarily approached from a man's experience.
Together we touch on:
• self-pleasure as a path rather than a technique
• dependency, neediness, and filling your own cup
• the pressure around erections and performance
• slowing down and listening to the body
• communicating desires and assumptions
• different kinds of sexual needs (Erotic Blueprints)
• partner sex and meeting each other without performance
• masculine conditioning and learning to receive
• intimacy, tenderness, and co-creating pleasure
I really enjoyed this conversation with Tom, and I hope you do too.
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Connect with Tom and his work (Dutch)
🌿 De Meervoudige Man https://meervoudigeman.be/
🌿 Free Erotic Blueprint Test https://meervoudigeman.be/blauwdrukken/
🌿 Free Mini-Course https://meervoudigeman.be/#minicursus
More from Intimate Breath
🌿 Website www.intimate-breath.com
🌿 Instagram & Facebook @intimatebreath
🌿 The next Liberation Journey starts in January 2027 in Belgium, and a Swedish one is in the making.
Mentioned in this episode
🎙️ From Tantric Gigolo to Dedicated Therapist – Yves Bonroy
📝 Your Genitals Need Time to Wake Up
📝 Your Penis Is Sensitive Too
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