Does hearing “no” or “not right now” or “stop doing…” seem to bring your child’s back-off watchdog or shut-down possum out? Or even worse??
Almost every family I’ve ever worked with has had some sort of struggle with their child tolerating frustration, or disappointment, or not getting what they want.
These kids look ‘spoiled,’ and the judgment from others is REAL.
But accepting no and tolerating frustration are owl brain skills that can be scaffolded. There’s a pretty lengthy ‘skill stack’ underneath accepting no, and if your child doesn’t have a lot of those skills, then of course they are going to go from 0-60 when they don’t get what they want.
In this episode you'll learn:
The skills hiding underneath "accepting no" (regulation, relationship, time, and agency- just to get started with) and why spotting the ones your child is missing changes how you respond
Why "not right now" feels like "never" to a dysregulated brain, even for a kid who understands perfectly well what later means
Why holding the no while your child melts down takes a skill stack of your own, including tolerating other people's judgment
The Club is open for new members this week! Come join us for the full accepting-no skill stack and for help working out what all of this looks like in YOUR family.
Sign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/Immersion
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