π§ Listen to this episode ifβ¦
β’Β Your ex has said they will not discuss money until parenting is agreed
β’Β You are not sure whether to sort property or parenting first, or both together
β’Β You are separated under one roof and nothing is moving
β’Β You have been handed an offer with a 24-hour deadline and it feels like pressure
β’Β Your ex has suddenly started pushing hard for 50/50 after showing little interest
β’Β You are heading into mediation and want to know what to do if they ambush you
β οΈ Disclaimer & Support
General information only, not legal advice. Australian family law. Always get advice about your own situation.
This episode discusses coercive control and financial abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732. Lifeline 13 11 14.
Episode Summary
"I am not discussing property until parenting is sorted." It sounds like a rule. It is not.
Mum and I unpack whether the order matters, where property and parenting really overlap, the time limits you cannot miss, and the eight stalling tactics we are seeing right now β the hostage swap, the circle walk, the 50/50 care play, the disclosure drip, the attrition strategy, the mediation ambush, the generosity trap and weaponised urgency. Plus the interim property distribution most self-represented people have never heard of.
β±οΈ Episode Timeline
00:00 β Property or Parenting First? Why Your Ex Wants to Control the Order
02:00 β Where Property and Parenting Actually Collide
04:00 β Why Some Exes Insist on Parenting First
06:00 β When Stalling Becomes Coercive Control and Economic Abuse
07:00 β Property Time Limits: De Facto vs Married Explained
09:00 β Can You Run Property and Parenting Together? Yes
11:00 β Mediation, 60I Certificates and Doing Both at Once
12:00 β Is There Any Good Reason to Keep Them Separate?
15:00 β "Who Died and Made Them Boss?" Taking Back Control
17:00 β Dirty Trick 1: The Hostage Swap
18:00 β The Line That Shuts It Down: "That's Not the Law"
20:00 β The Power Imbalance Test You Can Do Today
22:00 β Dirty Trick 2: The Circle Walk
23:00 β Interim Property Distribution: The Real Circuit Breaker
26:00 β Dirty Trick 3: The 50/50 Care Play
29:00 β Dirty Trick 4: The Disclosure Drip and Section 71B
31:00 β Dirty Trick 5: The Attrition Strategy and Wearing You Down
34:00 β Dirty Trick 6: The Mediation Ambush
36:00 β Filing in Court: Why the Registrar Changes Everything
38:00 β Dirty Trick 7: The Generosity Trap
40:00 β Dirty Trick 8: Weaponised Urgency and Fake Deadlines
42:00 β Sequencing by Personality Type: Which Order Suits Which Ex
44:00 β Rapid Fire: Your Biggest Property and Parenting Questions
47:00 β Rapid Fire for People Already in Court
50:00 β The Double-Sided Cushion: Your Two Sticky Notes
π§ Episodes Mentioned
Episode 213 β The Hidden Connection: Custody Battles & Property Splits in Divorce
https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/the-hidden-connection-custody-battles-property-splits/id1503451022?i=1000728151220
Episode 191 β What Your Lawyer Might Forget to Tell You: Unlocking Funds Before Property Settlement Is Final
https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/what-your-lawyer-might-forget-to-tell-you-unlocking/id1503451022?i=1000702792838
Episode 218 β Business Tricks in Divorce: 10 Sneaky Tactics to Watch Out For and Outsmart
https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/business-tricks-in-divorce-10-sneaky-tactics-to-watch/id1503451022?i=1000733969897
Links & Resources
π www.thedivorcecourse.com.auΒ |Β π www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog
Family Law Act 1975 β s 60CC, s 71B, s 79Β |Β Federal Circuit and Family Court β www.fcfcoa.gov.au
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Laura & Lyn
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