Zane and I were guests on David and Julie Bulitt's podcast, Conversations for Couples, and we connected with them right away. So this time, we turned the mic around!
Julie is a marriage and family therapist, and David is a divorce lawyer. (Yes, you read that right!) After nearly 40 years of marriage, they've realized they see the very same problems in their offices every day, just at different stages.
In this episode, they share how to protect your marriage before the little things turn into big things: the quiet signs a couple is drifting apart, the 5-to-1 rule for bringing up something that bugs you, and why David has never once heard a client say, "Our sex life is great, but I want a divorce."
We also get into the money talk every couple should have before retirement, how grandparenting can quietly pull a marriage in two directions, and their "No Tech 90." Zane and I felt like we got free counseling, and whether you've been married 5 years or 40, this conversation is for you!
WHAT TO EXPECT IN THIS EPISODE:
- How a couples therapist and a divorce lawyer end up working with the same marriage problems, and why David encourages clients to try counseling one more time before filing
- The quiet warning signs a couple is drifting apart, even when nobody is fighting
- The scientific way to bring up something that bugs you to your spouse without starting a fight
- Why husbands (and wives!) still need to hear "you did a good job," even after decades of marriage
- Why sex is the "car oil" of a marriage, and how David has never heard, "Our sex life is great, but I want a divorce," in his 40 years of practice
- Simple ways to protect your marriage as empty nesters, from 26 out-of-the-box date nights to dog walks and their "No Tech 90"
- The money talk every couple should have before retirement, and why both spouses need to know where everything stands
- How grandparenting can potentially strain a marriage, and why "we love our grandkids, but we're not childcare" can be a boundary worth setting
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