Have you ever stared at a mounting to-do list, surrounded by notebooks filled with strategies, only to realize you are completely paralyzed? The truth is, you don’t need more discipline, another textbook, or more information. You are staying still because you are trying to shame yourself into a new beginning.
In this solo episode, our host Michelle deep dives into why "should" is actually a form of shame—and why shame is biologically and psychologically guaranteed to keep you stagnant. We unpack why doubt is not a lack of information, but an avoidance of uncomfortable feelings. Finally, we explore the sheer vulnerability of admitting what you truly want, why your ego covers those desires up with safe "shoulds," and how you can make the energetic shift to step out of your head and into daring action today.
✨ IN THIS EPISODE:
00:00 – Welcome back! Why more notebooks and information aren't the answer to your stuckness.
04:15 – Should is just shame in disguise: The biological impossibility of shaming yourself into a new beginning.
08:50 – Why knowledge doesn't suppress doubt and why we must learn to lean into our doubts instead of trying to "fix" them.
12:10 – The Anatomy of Doubt: Why doubt is actually an avoidance of uncomfortable feelings.
17:30 – Michelle's breakthrough LA acting class moment: The power of sitting with your emotions without the pressure to perform.
23:15 – Shoulds vs. Wants: Why "shoulds" are a heavy downward weight while "wants" are your forward evolutionary force.
28:00 – Why authentically wanting is terrifying for your ego (and the two massive fears of desire).
32:45 – The 10% Shift: A simple visualization exercise to instantly convert your "shoulds" into "wants" and change your energy.
37:10 – Accessing the Where Daring Outruns Doubting playbook and finding your tribe.
💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:
On the trap of "should":"Should is an internal statement that brings shame because if you don't do it, then you've failed. And shame's only job is to stop or stagnate behavior."
On the true definition of doubt:"Doubt is not a lack of information. It's an avoidance of uncomfortable feelings."
On the energetic shift of desire:"Shoulds are like a heavy weight pulling you down. And wants are a forward force propelling you ahead."
On why we protect ourselves from what we want:"Getting what we want will fundamentally redefine who we are as a person, which is a moment of deadly peril for our ego."
🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:
Join the Dare Club Community: Head over to www.shewhodareswins.com and click on "Dare" to pop your email address in.
Download the Playbook: Get your copy of the free Where Daring Outruns Doubting workbook/playbook on our website.
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