Ultimatums as Self-Care

Sometimes, you've gotta draw the line. In this episode, Dr. Vaughn and Sally discuss THE ULTIMATUM and challenge the negative reputation it carries in the world of relationships and communication.  The fact is, some boundaries aren't flexible, and sharing what those are within a relationship is at times necessary. Drawing a line in the sand and communicating the resulting outcome allows both parties to make a choice--.one decides whether to cross the line and the other decides the follow-up. This acknowledges the free will of both participants as they are both free to choose their consequences by their actions. Without ultimatums, the line in the sand is never drawn and resentment grows. The offended party feels bound by the choices of the other. Ultimatums create a context of respecting the free will and power of each individual to control their own fate.