Parent Driven Development
Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays
Welcome Brandon!
Brandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.
02:40 Brandon's co-parenting
Starting with traditional gender roles
Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..
The invisible work becomes more visible
Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids
06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic
Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school
Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic
The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down
Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help
Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before
10:53 Working out responsibility between partners
Clear contracts
Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner
Alternating cooking dinner and clean up
Family clean day
Creating activities for kids, even after a long day
Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden?
14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths
Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents
Recognition of each partner
Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in
Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed
17:30 Working together
19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!
Strengthened the team mentality
Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic
Constant change, the on-call parent
24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?
27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection
28:35 Genius / fail moments
Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt…
Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!
Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius
Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius
KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius
Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat
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Chris Arcand
Jess
Arit
Allison
KWu
Special Guest: Brandon Hays.
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