Parent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon HaysWelcome Brandon!
Brandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.
02:40 Brandon's co-parentingStarting with traditional gender rolesCo-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..The invisible work becomes more visibleCovid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemicAwareness that things changed… kids cannot return to schoolBrandon becomes the educator during the pandemic The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut downReworking the home dynamic when one partner needs helpAsking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before10:53 Working out responsibility between partnersClear contractsSplitting up tasks and making them known to each partnerAlternating cooking dinner and clean upFamily clean dayCreating activities for kids, even after a long dayCheck in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? 14:05 Recognize your partner's strengthsBeing comfortable with how each partner co-parents Recognition of each partnerOptimize each parenting style and continue to check inAsking and taking the self-care when it is needed17:30 Working together19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!Strengthened the team mentality Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemicConstant change, the on-call parent24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection28:35 Genius / fail momentsAllison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #geniusJess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegeniusKWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitatHow can I support the podcast?