Terri Cole, psychotherapist and global relationship + empowerment expert, joins Krista to explore her upcoming book, Father Wound. Learn why even when a father seems fine on paper, old family patterns can influence who we choose + how much of ourselves we abandon.
Terri unpacks the high-achieving woman’s habit of over-functioning, over-giving, and struggling to receive. She shares how the drive to succeed can become a way to prove your worth, and what changed when she stopped trying to make emotionally unavailable relationships work.
From inherited beliefs about men to self-abandonment in the bedroom, this conversation is an invitation to stop shape-shifting for approval, get honest about what you really want, and build deeper connections without making yourself smaller.
We also talk about:
The difference between compatibility + compliance
How mothers can buffer—or deepen—a father wound
Why authority figures can trigger old family dynamics
The cultural messages women internalize about beauty, aging, and the male gaze
What Terri’s relationship with her husband taught her about stating her standards
How family systems influence attachment patterns
Why self-care + self-consideration are not the same
How earned secure attachment can develop over time
What Mariah Carey + Kate Hudson reveal about father wounds
Using relationship inventories + inner-child work to understand your patterns
Resources:
Terri's new book, Father Wound, out on November 17th: https://www.fatherwoundbook.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terricole
Website: https://www.terricole.com
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